10 years ago I found out my husband of 20 years was having an affair with a co-worker, and our marriage was over. Words can’t describe the pain, anger, confusion and sadness I felt. I had been married to him my entire adult life. I didn’t know who I was without being “XXX’s wife”. A friend who I hadn’t been real close to called and kept calling, even though I insisted I was “fine.” I wasn’t fine, but I was numb and didn’t realize how not fine I was. She helped me to redefine my self as a woman, not a wife and mom. We walked for hours and talked, and it was healing for me. I am now happily remarried. I will never forget how much of a difference a persistent friend made in my life.